i feel like maybe i came across this question for a reason, totally by accident, and i hope my words will help. i know you feel hopeless right now, and sometimes the bombardment of thoughts can be overwhelming, but i promise there is hope on the horizon! i'll give you a little background on myself first. i'm a 28 year old male. i met my now ex-wife in high school at the age of 16. we thought we had fallen in love (at that age what do we really know about love? i know i still had a lot to learn). at the age of 19 we had a daughter and decided to get married. even though we had been rushed into the marriage it was still what we had planned, and we were "happy." we were going through the paces of what we had been taught was a happy life. we had a second child, our son at 21, and we couldn't of been happier, we thought. after we had been married a few years i became depressed "for no reason" because i thought i had what everyone wanted. a wife, two healthy, intelligent children, a house..but something was lacking. love, a bond, a partnership. we had grown apart, or had never even grown together, we were wrong for each other from the beginning. anyways, to make a long story short, it took me FOUR MORE YEARS to finally realize we needed to part our ways. i was so scared to split up the family, and so was she. we had been taught till death do you part, you suffer through it all, "it isn't supposed to be easy" they said. it should be easy, when you find the right one, things flow incredibly. we finallyseparated after none years together. it took some getting used to at first, scheduling time with the children, we did it all 50/50 when our schedules permitted. i was so scared on the damage it might cause to the growth of our children who were 6 and 4 years old at the time of the divorce. but now it is nearly three years later, our kids have never been happier, my relationship with them has improved ten-fold. the dark cloud that was hanging over my head was lifted. they see their dad happy. i felt like myself again, i was inspired by life, i made music, created art, found my own strength. i rid myself of the fear of dying alone and began to experience life without the negative point of view we have been taught by our culture since birth. i began to think positively, project out a loving signal, the "law of Attraction": the kind of energy you put out will be the energy that returns to you; if you don't trust people, you will meet untrustworthy people; if you project a positive, loving energy, this will come to you. one night, a year and a half after the divorce, i was playing a small concert at a club. i play the drums. after the show i was introduced to an old friend of a friend from the past, the most beautiful woman i have ever laid eyes on. we both looked at each other and knew, we embraced each other in a hug and instantly started kissing - now, i had never done this before, i am a more reserved, private person, so is she, and we both like to get to know someone for a bit, hug maybe, hold hands, but this!? we were dumbfounded, the energy we felt was unreal. the most amazing thing was that we weren't even looking for someone, we were aware enough to pay attention to what was around us, and not blinded by our "search" or "need" to find someone. we have been together ever since, only apart for two nights, until we couldn't take it any longer and moved in together. she was separating with an unhappy marriage at the time, and had one son. everything has gone so smooth, after some minor struggles with x's which are inevitable...the kids get along great, i love her son like my own, and she loves mine the same. get this, her son is ten days younger than my daughter, his name is Aidan, her name is Jaiden. the synchronisities keep piling up. we make each other better people, we highlight each others strenghts and weakness perfectly, we get along great. we have minor squabbles, and healthy bickering, but nothing damaging. i enjoy fighting with her more than i like hanging around with most people, it's a joy just to be around her. we have grown together, and into the people we have always wanted to be but were held back by others before, we can say anything, think anything, share any feeling, our love-making is magical, a cosmic connection i had never felt or dreamed i would feel. you will have this all too! i know you feel stuck, but if you think positively and feel your inner strength that has always been there, you will find everything you've ever dreamed of. for me, it's even better than i could have dreamed. just follow your heart, not your fears. i mean, you knew you didn't love him from the beginning, but obviously you were meant to know each other for some time, to make a beautiful child together. just know, it's ok to be wrong, to change your mind, find yourself again. opposites don't attract (that just works for the electrical charge in a neuron, humans are magnets, we will attract like charges, and repel the o
The Stamina Training Unit (STU) from Fleshlight was engineered expressly to help men learn to last longer in bed. If he can last 10 minutes in the STU, he can last 20 in bed with anyone!
tell him to go and shake one off in the bathroom befor you should get arround 15 to 20 minutes or make him stop half way through the job and change position a couple of times
You should Masturbate as often as you like, it won't do you any harm, in fact regular Ejaculating reduces the risk of testicular cancer. If you try masturbating til you want to ejaculate, then stop let the feeling die down then do the same again, if you do this for about 15 minutes this will help Good Luck
5 moths and it never occurred to either of you to get him to a doctor? How old are you? Time for him to be an adult and take care of this. It could be psychological but he also could have a medical condition. It's not going to be solved on it's own. He needs to talk to his doctor and realize...the doc has seen and heard everything.
I can say, I understand what he went through. Some of US, when we ask "that" question, we are very serious. We are putting our heart on the line, praying it won't get "stomped on", and it sounds like "You stomped on it"! I know he's been around, but that can mean that he's been hurt, more than a few times, too. In effect, he was asking "can I trust you with my heart?" And You said NO!! Can you blame the guy? But he didn't quit, either. Many guys would have left, and who could blame him if he did? His staying. The fact he was getting aroused. All that should have told you ALLOT! I'm happy for You, that it seems to have worked out for you. Many of "us guys" are compelled to "help" whenever we think we can, or should. It's the way we are! It is one of the ways we say that we love someone. If our help is rejected, WE feel rejected. It's complicated. My wife complains when I try to solve a problem that she's just "venting" over. I simply can't turn that part of me "off". We show our love in many ways, other than sex. Love is so much more, than sex. It's caring, it's listening, it's calling "just to say, Hi", it's getting something from the top shelf, it's finding that special treat that you love. It's ALL THAT, and so much more! Understand?
Go to a sex shop, they have creams to rub in to make you less sensitive. The other option is to masterbate before sex, it will make you last longer the second time.
both of u should engage yourselves in more foreplay. let us say an hour before doing it. try different surroundings like the living room. touch each other in the balcony, garden. try it in the kitchen . embrace each other. give each other back rubs, massage etc. you can try different positions. the doggy style gives max pleasure.
I don't no about getting it longer but it will last longer if you knock one off or masturbate before you have sex. Good luck! :)