No, you're not handing it properly. An ultimatum is an ultimatum. Why are you having discussions w/ him. You're just showing him you won't stand your ground.
Kudos to you for attempting to be an attentive lover. If you two are comfortable doing so, you should consult a physician about what positions may put less pressure on her injury. Also, take the time to ask her about what she enjoys the most and focus on doing that. For what it is worth, some women do not like guys who last a long time.
you can practice masturbating and when you do, stop before you are about to ejaculate and then after you calm down a little go again. or you can masturbate before you have sex
Instead of telling him he sin't doing it for you, say you want to get a little more playful and creative with your lovemaking. See if he will let you tie him up/cuff him to the bed so you can control the pace, and then show him what you want. Experiement with candles, toys, ice, chocolate body frosting, and whipped cream. Tease him, make him beg for it, and don't let him climax until you are satisfied. Buy some kind of lover's game to help you experiment with more foreplay. Don't just have sex, make love, and make him wait to get inside you until you are almost ready to explode. Telling him he isn't cutting it will hurt his feelings. Telling him you want to spend more time touching his body and kissing himevery where, and having him do the same to you should turn him on.
1. Tell him he needs to fantasize about other sexual things during sex. This could be sexual positions, and tell him if he thinks about other girls, he should not tell you. That will make him want to do it anyway...because you told him NOT to do it. Now he'll orgasm sooner. 2. Foreplay before sex actually needs to be longer. He says sex session right now is "too long" because doing it with you is getting boring, not as exciting. He just don't want to hurt your feelings. 3. You probably are not as attractive to him as you were in the beginning, maybe you gained or lost weight, or you cut your hair, or your hygiene is not as good? I perform sex for about 2 hours, and each time is 3 different sessions throught the night till morning. Whatever girl i happen to be with never said "too long" because i always keep it exciting, energetic, interesting, and fulfilling. She gives it back to me in appreciation.
Three old mischievous grandmas were sitting on a bench outside a nursing home. About then an old grandpa walked by, and one of the old grandmas yelled out saying, "We bet we can tell exactly how old you are." The old man said, "There ain't no way you can guess it, you old fools". One of the errant grandmas said, "Sure we can! Just drop your under pants and we can tell your exact age." Embarrassed just a little, he dropped his pants. The grandmas stared at him for a while, asked him to turn around a couple of times, asked him to jump up and down for a little while and then they all piped up and said, "You're 94 years old!" "How in the world did you guess?!?" The unruly old grandmas snickered and laughed. Slapping their knees and grinning from ear to ear, all three happily yelled in unison, "Because we were at your birthday party yesterday."
im givin a guy's thoughts on your questions.. 1- im not incredibly knowledgable on what others do, but i think each one of us brings something different, good or bad.. i think the single most important thing that separates good ones from bad is simply, makin his woman happy.. if he is selfish an only thinks about his own happiness, then im sure he wont leave any woman impressed.. now, when a man takes his time an truly wants his partner to feel the greatest she ever felt, it leaves a lasting impression.. 2- i personally feel sex should be a separate topic, compared to making love.. i see sex as performin it with a person you dont really know or care about an are simply doing it for kicks.. but making love.. thats something else entirely.. when you care for the other person, you have no idea of time.. ive gone almost 5 hours before, without any blue pills.. you take time makin every second memorable.. i personally love foreplay.. it kind of awakens parts of yourself that make the whole situation even more enjoyable.. 3- i dont know about how you ladies feel, but i know oral is the absolute best route to ease a woman into bliss.. i get more out of the act knowing she already hit a couple O's even before the main event.. 4- i cant possibly know how a girl's first time must be like, but i know mine was really awkward an strange, all while very goodfeeling.. i personally regret givin up my first time to who i did, but i cant change it..